Family Hurting Family
Living with addicts has led many to believe that addiction is to blame for a toxic family relationship that results with family hurting family. To a certain degree, it’s true however addiction and toxicity are different. Addiction is like a disease because of the sickness and doesn’t make people evil,
Some people already have evil inside of them, however, addiction brings it out of them. Toxic family members put themselves before others and will take advantage of anyone if it benefits them. The poisonous members of the family usually are surrounded by chaos. The toxic people in your life don’t have to be addicts, but if they are toxic and have an addiction problem, then run away and don’t look back.
A toxic parent is someone that likes to cause trouble within the family, rather than admit to the truth or apologize. A decent parent will hear their child out when they express their feelings. A Nontoxic parent doesn’t need to agree with all that their child is saying but they at least listen. A dangerous parent will just reject, disregard or even expel through a non-conciliatory sentiment or another strategy. A toxic parent is self-centered and feels their problems outweighs all others. A toxic individual is never responsible, and when they are confronted, they will deny it in every way.
Toxic adult siblings will blame the other whenever they get into trouble and will bring you down whenever the opportunity is given to them. Taking the sibling rivalry too far is one thing, but a toxic sibling will take it way too far and personal. If you have a sibling one thing a parent should avoid is comparing siblings and giving everyone unequal treatment. Toxicity can derive from the saying “Why can’t you be like your brother/sister?”. Treating one sibling more like a friend rather than their child, then this may be a sign of toxic behavior from a parent.
Some toxic father-daughter relationships occur throughout adult life. All toxic relationships should stop yet sadly only so much can be done to help those that we care about. Some poisonous relationships involving fathers can be broken. Some are fortunate enough to have experience with other aspects of perception. Looking at different aspects of the world will broaden your perceptional views and values. Understanding that parents are not always the best mentor is important.
Being in control or knowing everything is a priority to a narcissistic parent. A narcissistic parent is exclusively and possessively close to their children and threatened by their children’s growing independence. They care more about themselves than their own child and need to be involved in everything or else they get offended. A narcissistic parent will leave their child confused because they like to make their children feel as if they are responsible. These parents give no credit at all yet expect all the credit from everyone else for things they probably didn’t even accomplish. A narcissistic person will lie in order to benefit themselves, even if hurts their children.
Everyone gets mad, and people can make empty threats that sometimes can be followed through. A toxic family member will make threats all the time and may act on them. If harm is done intentionally, then it’s time to walk away because it will only get worse. No type of abuse should be tolerated, even though walking away isn’t your goal; it must happen!